Change in plans. . .
Earlier, David and I had plans to write about an accident that happened in 2010. We talked to a bunch of people who helped us at that difficult time. We had information written down, we had an awesome photo shoot, and then we started planning. And we felt terrible. Both of us. David started having really bad nightmares, phantom pains, just really feeling down.
We decided to rethink this. We decided NOT to write down any more memories, NOT to talk about details. We decided NOT to write a book.
Instead, we are focusing on the positives in our life. We are so blessed with family and friends and neighbors. We are grateful now and forever to the EMTs that made everything work out. Thanks to everybody who visited and prayed and gave us support and shared their labor to get David through the rough patches.
Through is the operative word here. We are through with the negative focus. We are on to the good stuff in everyday life! Because, we have learned, nothing is to be rejected. Embrace the whole deal.
1 Timothy 4: 4-5
“For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.”
What wisdom! This was a brave post! and I agree with Lisa the photo shoot was worth all the effort.
Trauma is tricky. Sneaky like grief. If the symptoms continue, I have seen EMDR therapy really help several people. For me, it separated the memories . . . from what my body felt in the moment of trauma. It smooths out the triggers and dreams. It can be done with a therapist online so no travel. I chose a therapist from Leavenworth b/c of their experience with military families. 10/10 would recommend it.
My best to you!
Still glad you did the photo shoot! What a great picture of the two of you! :) And it is absolutely ok to recognize that this decision wasn't helpful for you and that the positive focus is best. A good lesson for us all!